The first weeks of the New Year are traditionally busy for family lawyers with the influx of clients who have made the decision to end their relationship and make a fresh start.
But this is only the beginning of the end and you may find that your divorce is dragging on into the next New Year if you are not careful.
The key to minimising the pain and stress of relationship breakdown is trying to keep a lid on emotions and concentrate on the practical job of dividing the matrimonial assets, as reasonably and objectively as possible. Compromise often means you gain in the end.
Remaining calm and keeping things reasonable is also critical if there are children in the family, whatever their age. In fact older children frequently become more partisan, allying with one parent against the other. This discord can be kept to a minimum if the couple themselves behave respectfully toward each other.
Yes, you can have a “good divorce”. Celebrity divorces such as Gwyneth Paltrow/Chris Martin and Gary Lineker/Danielle Bux are good role models, although of course it is a lot easier to keep it sweet when there is a lot of wealth about!
We more humble mortals can still follow that example and choosing the collaborative option is one way of achieving a good divorce. Take a look at the Peterborough Collaborative group, BEST DIVORCE OPTIONS website for more information, at www.divorceoptions.co.uk
Belinda Smith is a fully qualified collaborative lawyer.